Bowen Dwelle

CHOOSE FREEDOM

Choose Freedom Coaching

Through my coaching practice, I work with clients to help them achieve greater freedom in all aspects of their lives.

How did I choose freedom, and how can I help you? Based on my own personal experience, I focus on the following three areas:

Alcohol is Obsolete

I was a teenage boozehound until the age of 48. At that point in my life I finally saw how much alcohol was interfering with how I wanted to live, and it became obsolete for me. Alcohol is so pervasive and so normalized in our culture that many of us don’t stop to think about how it’s affecting us. Most of us do not have a severely debilitating drinking problem—most have a subtly debilitating, “normal” or “moderate” drinking habit—the sort of habit that can be maintained for a lifetime.

But why? Consuming any quantity of alcohol interferes with optimal health and performance, and even drinking only a couple of beers or glasses of wine live with sub-optimal sleep and other detrimental effects. And if, like me, you drink more than just a bit but still less than catastrophically, you probably suffer from some combination of poor health, fatigue, bad mood, impatience, anxiety, and depression. In my case, I had a lifelong and increasingly serious problem with depression, and I could just not figure out why I was depressed. As all know, alcohol is a “depressant”, but I had never learned how it not only acts that way in the short term, but can also literally cause depression. Alcohol and depression are deeply co-involved. Especially if you feel depressed, I urge you to look very closely at how drinking and depression are connected. 

Hard to imagine your life without drinking? Is it for most of us, because drinking has become part of what we do on a regular basis, and, quite literally, we are what we do most often. If part of what we do is drink, that is part of who we are, and it’s hard to consider stopping being part of who you are. That’s the thing—it’s actually harder to think about stopping drinking than it is to actually stop. When we just think about stopping, we imagine trying to live without some part of ourselves. When we simply try stopping, we quickly start to feel the benefits of living without (or with much less) alcohol, and the body usually speaks for itself. Improved sleep alone is often enough for many people to start to see the effects of alcohol more clearly.

Tired of waking up fuzzy, grumpy, sad, tired, hung over, and depressed? I sure was. Now I have perfect sleep every night, and more energy than I did fifteen years ago. As someone who was a drinker from the age of eleven through forty-seven and depressed through my late twenties into my forties, I have the personal experience to help you better understand what alcohol does, to change your relationship with alcohol, and to gain freedom from alcohol. I’m also working closely with This Naked Mind and One Year No Beer to become a certified coach through both of those organizations.

Life is Outside

We did not evolve to live inside. We did not evolve to work indoors all day, or commute for hours each way every day. This isn’t living. Life is meant to be lived outside, at least a lot more outside than most of us live.

We’ve lost track of what adventure is, and most of us don’t know how to have even one adventure, let alone live an adventurous life. We’ve lost track of the fact that flow is our normal state of mind, not something that we have to set aside time to try to get into. We struggle to get better at making decisions and at getting things done, when what we really need is our intuition. When our intuition is highly functional and we are practiced at recognizing it, at using our intuition, decisions come more easily and we are more confident of the results.

How can we get back in touch with adventure, flow and intuition, and craft our lives so that these are part of the foundation of our being? The first step is often to simply spend more time outside. We are naturally happier and healthier when we spend more time outside, and there are many ways to build more outside time into our lives. Time in the outdoors naturally activates and trains out intuition, fills us with awe at the wonders of the natural world, and gets us into flow.

As a life-long outdoorsperson, professional adventure guide, semi-pro kitesurfer, competitive paraglider pilot and an avid trail runner, I have the personal experience to help you craft a life that is full of outdoor experiences, and to gain the freedom that comes from living more in the outdoors.

Lead Yourself First

Let’s face it, work kinda sucks. We weren’t mean to work “full time”, and it’s been well documented that we have less free time now than humans in hunter-gatherer societies did, tens of thousands of years ago. From my point of view, full is about half time. I reject the idea that we should be working five days out of seven.

What’s “work” anyhow? One way to define work is what we do specifically to make money, as opposed to for some other primary reason.

There’s more than one way to solve the work problem. We can find work that we love, and that blends more fluidly into the rest of our lives. We can find ways to work less, by making more, and by reducing how much money we need to live who we want to live. The entire financial independence (aka “FI”) movement is about permanently solving the ‘need to work’ problem as early in life as possible, so that work becomes obsolete, and we are free to do things for reasons other than making money.

As an entrepreneur from the age of nine and the founder of a successful conference series that celebrated it’s twentieth anniversary in 2019, I have the personal experience to help you change your relationship with work and to claim the freedom that is your birthright. True freedom means the ability to choose what you do when where and why you want, and it’s more possible than ever to achieve this.

Choose freedom

If you’re interested in learning more about any of this,drop me a line and we can set up a conversation.

Join me,

—Bowen

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