What Are You Drinking? online April 27, 2020

Nobody asked me, so I’m asking you: What Are You Drinking?

Join me online Monday April 27 at 10:30-11:30 AM PT for an honest conversation about drinking.

Many of us drink alcohol, and have done so for much of our lives. Drinking becomes normal, and yet, many of us find ourselves wanting to drink less—and not knowing quite how to change our patterns. Historically, our collective wisdom has treated alcohol as an untouchable—until it becomes a catastrophe. This either/or paradigm did not serve me, and likely does not serve you as a moderate, social, normal drinker.

If you’ve gotten the subtle message that you may want to change your relationship with alcohol, the good news is that change can be much easier than you think. The view from inside your current normal looks real, because it is—and what seems real and normal can also change quickly, and dramatically.

In this online version of one of my favorite workshops, we’ll explore the new context of wellness and neuroscience that is revolutionizing how many of us feel about drinking. Join us to explore this shift and learn what others have done to create a conscious relationship with—or without—alcohol.

Monday April 27 at 10:30-11:30 AM PT online FREE in partnership with Holistic Healer Collective and WellSet.

Register here for this free online event.

Purpose, Intuition, and Freedom on the Ellis in Wunderland podcast

Here’s a interview that I recorded a few weeks ago with Georgia Ellis of Blue Chip Minds for her outstanding Ellis in Wunderland podcast

PURPOSE: Our basic purpose is to be ourselves as much as possible. Intuition is the only voice that will speak out purpose.

FEAR: Fear is a voice of “no”, and intuition is a voice of “yes.” Fear is just a message, and usually something that we can turn towards. Intuition is the quiet voice of the unconscious. Fear is the loud voice of instinct.

INTUITION: How embodied practices can be the gateway to getting it touch with intuition. Intuition is simply: self-awareness, and embodied practices (like sports, yoga, meditation) train the muscle of self-awareness. 

“Alcohol is obsolete” is a linguistic mechanism that I use to put drinking firmly in the past. I’ve done it, but it’s in the past, and it’s not part of my life any longer. I also believe that we are likely past the cultural peak of alcohol use.

Since our true purpose is simply to be ourselves, and the voice of self is intuition, and since alcohol dulls the intuition, drinking interferes with finding—and feeling—your self, and your purpose.

The view from the inside of our current state of being will make a different way of living seem distant and foreign to us. We can talk about it, but it won’t seem real, or that it could become real. The only way to see what a new normal feels like is to run an experiment—to try it. 

Depression is a symptom, not a thing. For most people, anxiety and depression are symptoms of not living well. If you’re depressed and you drink alcohol, you should consider very strongly how alcohol and depression are co-involved. We don’t talk enough about how alcohol can cause depression.

My #1 value: freedom. You need to be free to be—to be yourself. For me that meant 1) Developing a way of supporting myself of my own design, so that I can live outside the machine. 2) Developing my intuition into a full-fledged and highly-functioning part of who I am. 3) Creating a more conscious relationship with (or without) alcohol.

Depression, Purpose and Intuition on the People of Purpose podcast

I met Tanur Badgely at a writing workshop in mid-2019, and we got back together recently to record an episode for his outstanding People of Purpose podcast.

Dogs are always happy because “a dog’s purpose is to do dog well” — they can do “dog” without thinking, and so they are happy automatically. Our problem is that the conscious human mind gets in the way of what would otherwise be automatic happiness.

Thinking gets in the way. Intuition is how we get there. Intuition is ”knowing how to do the right thing at the right time without knowing how”—and, there are lots things that we do that dominate our mental state so completely that they leave no space for the subtle voice of intuition.

My own gradual emergence from depression and towards a greater sense of purpose has been a journey of rediscovering my intuition. My intuition also led me to stop drinking (which was itself the primary reason that my intuition was foreign to me for so much of my life).

Especially as men, purpose is at the core of our identity and our well-being, and intuition is the only voice that will speak our purpose.

I hope you enjoy our conversation.